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If you are seeking to employ a divorce lawyer then things have obviously gone wrong in your relationship; they need to have certain qualities including:*Have successfully practiced this area of law for some time *Know how to take the correct approach *Be reliable Whilst it is nice to know your attorney is good in divorce battles it will be to your advantage to choose one with a good mediation record. They must be someone you can trust and work with comfortably; someone who has your confidence.Mediation minded attorneys are more likely to give you problem solving advice, whereas traditional attorneys tend to be more oriented to conflict and their advice tends to be adversarial. Your divorce lawyer will be able to help with some aspects and if it is further investigation you need, a  private investigator  could help, but there will be things only you can do so think carefully about what you need explained before you contact them.Plan each conversation by making an agenda and write down the things you want to talk about; take notes on the content of the conversation and the amount of time spent on phone calls. Physical meetings will cost more so if an item can be dealt with by mail or on the phone this will save money.An attorney does not come cheap so use them only for the purpose you hired them for, legal advice, they are not there as an emotional problem solver, there are other professionals who specialize in that area. Remember your divorce lawyer needs to remain detached and should not be involved in anything that is not directly related to the divorce case.Let your lawyer know from the start that you will be in charge of the case and they are there for legal advice and not as someone to lean on when things start getting rough. Your legal representative must be told up front that whilst his or her advice is essential, all decisions regarding the divorce will be made by you. You must also let them know that you expect copies of all correspondence to be sent to you for you own records and if you contact them by phone, you expect a reply within one working day.Don't think that you have to enter into proceedings armed with a lawyer in tow as they aren't always necessary although you may wish to speak to one just for advice on a marital settlement for example. You may decide to carry out research first before you contact them, only asking your lawyer questions you have not been able to find answers too. It is not uncommon for people to draw up their own marital settlements with the help of a divorce lawyer who is familiar with the case.